Catalog

Record Details

Catalog Search



Acceptance : a memoir  Cover Image Book Book

Acceptance : a memoir

Nietfeld, Emi (author.).

Summary

Summary: "A brilliant, funny, generation-defining memoir about the double bind of crafting perfect adversity narratives for highly selective institutions, while fumbling through the far murkier reality of actual life in foster care and inpatient mental health treatment. As a child, Emi Nietfeld was caught between a hoarder mother who got her put on antipsychotic medication, but was also the only person to believe she was exceptional, and a state system exemplified by a foster mom who tried to ban her art history flash cards because they had naked pictures (of Michelangelo's David). Even after wresting free of grim inpatient mental health institutions and getting into a prestigious boarding school, Emi scrambled for places to sleep during breaks. Realizing that her path to true independence lay in reinventing herself as a talented overcomer deserving of a full ride, she became obsessed with college admissions. While taking on the sad challenge of presenting herself as resilient to gain authorities' approval, Emi lived the untidy version of actual adversity at the same time--literally drafting her Common App statement while living out of her '92 Corolla. She found herself "trading my past for my future" in college admissions essays and scholarship applications, in an extreme example of the immense pressure on teenagers from all backgrounds to build the foundations of their entire lives. Emi's story is a harsh illumination of the near-impossible challenge set by societal expectations of coming from nothing, the brokenness of our child welfare system, and the reality that congratulatory letters from top schools couldn't keep her safe--as she found when she was raped while on a trip following her Harvard admission. Though Emi learns that entering the Ivy League, working in Big Tech, and living in a fancy apartment doesn't mean her life turns into gold, her reflections on her unlikely history, and her journey in confronting trauma and injustice, hold powerful lessons. Candid and frequently harrowing, with a ribbon of dark humor, Acceptance is a stunning human story and an invaluable view of the actual cost of upward mobility"--

Item details

  • ISBN: 0593489470
  • ISBN: 9780593489475
  • Physical Description: 359 pages ; 25 cm
    print
  • Publisher: New York : Penguin Press, 2022.
Subject: Nietfeld, Emi
Foster children United States Biography
Child welfare United States
Social mobility United States Psychological aspects

Currently available copies

  • 2 / 4 copies available at PINES (Show)
  • 0 / 0 copies available at Athens Regional Library System

Holds

  • 0 current holds on 4 total copies.
Find the nearest copy:
Library System: Library Branch Name
Call Number / Copy Notes Barcode Shelving Location Status  

Loading Recommendations...

LDR 03342nam a2200349Ii 4500
0016365030
003GaAaGPL
00520220728144506.0
008220726s2022 nyu 000 0aeng
010 . ‡a 2021046322
040 . ‡aDLC ‡beng ‡erda ‡cFSP ‡dFSP
020 . ‡a9780593489475 ‡q(hardcover)
020 . ‡a0593489470 ‡q(hardcover)
035 . ‡a(OCoLC)1337194422
043 . ‡an-us---
05000. ‡aHT612 ‡b.N54 2022
08204. ‡a305.5/130973 ‡aB ‡223/eng/20220719
1001 . ‡aNietfeld, Emi, ‡eauthor.
24510. ‡aAcceptance : ‡ba memoir / ‡cEmi Nietfeld.
264 1. ‡aNew York : ‡bPenguin Press, ‡c2022.
300 . ‡a359 pages ; ‡c25 cm
336 . ‡atext ‡btxt ‡2rdacontent
337 . ‡aunmediated ‡bn ‡2rdamedia
338 . ‡avolume ‡bnc ‡2rdacarrier
520 . ‡a"A brilliant, funny, generation-defining memoir about the double bind of crafting perfect adversity narratives for highly selective institutions, while fumbling through the far murkier reality of actual life in foster care and inpatient mental health treatment. As a child, Emi Nietfeld was caught between a hoarder mother who got her put on antipsychotic medication, but was also the only person to believe she was exceptional, and a state system exemplified by a foster mom who tried to ban her art history flash cards because they had naked pictures (of Michelangelo's David). Even after wresting free of grim inpatient mental health institutions and getting into a prestigious boarding school, Emi scrambled for places to sleep during breaks. Realizing that her path to true independence lay in reinventing herself as a talented overcomer deserving of a full ride, she became obsessed with college admissions. While taking on the sad challenge of presenting herself as resilient to gain authorities' approval, Emi lived the untidy version of actual adversity at the same time--literally drafting her Common App statement while living out of her '92 Corolla. She found herself "trading my past for my future" in college admissions essays and scholarship applications, in an extreme example of the immense pressure on teenagers from all backgrounds to build the foundations of their entire lives. Emi's story is a harsh illumination of the near-impossible challenge set by societal expectations of coming from nothing, the brokenness of our child welfare system, and the reality that congratulatory letters from top schools couldn't keep her safe--as she found when she was raped while on a trip following her Harvard admission. Though Emi learns that entering the Ivy League, working in Big Tech, and living in a fancy apartment doesn't mean her life turns into gold, her reflections on her unlikely history, and her journey in confronting trauma and injustice, hold powerful lessons. Candid and frequently harrowing, with a ribbon of dark humor, Acceptance is a stunning human story and an invaluable view of the actual cost of upward mobility"-- ‡cProvided by publisher.
60010. ‡aNietfeld, Emi.
650 0. ‡aFoster children ‡zUnited States ‡vBiography. ‡0(GaAaGPL)1348962
650 0. ‡aChild welfare ‡zUnited States. ‡0(GaAaGPL)789983
650 0. ‡aSocial mobility ‡zUnited States ‡xPsychological aspects
77608. ‡iOnline version: ‡aNietfeld, Emi. ‡tAcceptance ‡dNew York : Penguin Press, 2022 ‡z9780593489482 ‡w(DLC) 2021046323
994 . ‡aZ0 ‡bZGR
901 . ‡aon1337194422 ‡bOCoLC ‡c6365030 ‡tbiblio ‡soclc

Additional Resources