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The mature man : how to become the husband your wife deserves

Shiplett, Gary R. (author.). Shiplett, Alethea, (author.).

Summary: "What kind of marriage relationship do you have? A helpmate, a stalemate, or a checkmate? The author becomes your marriage coach, helping your relationship grow towards a more fulfilling marriage. You will enhance your inter-personal skill set, become a better communicator, a better husband, a better lover, and a more mature man. You will gain conflict resolution skills and basic skills in both relaxation and erotic massage"--Page 4 of cover.

Item details

ISBN: 9781495804540
ISBN: 1495804542
Physical Description: print
xxxii, 262 pages ; 23 cm
Publisher: West Conshohocken, PA : Infinity Publishing, 2017.

Contents / Notes

Bibliography, etc. Note:

Includes bibliographical references (pages 261-262).

Formatted Contents Note:

Twentieth anniversary poem --Twenty-fifth anniversary poem -- Introduction -- Chapter 1: the confessions of a somewhat mature man: how I crossed the gender gap and what I learned ; What it means to cherish your wife ; inside our own barrels ; How to keep your love alive ; A journey across the gender gap -- Chapter 2: Respecting boundaries: creating a co-personal world by invitation, not invasion ; Idealized creation of a shared identify ; Creation of a co-personal world ; Defining and defending boundaries ; Children's boundaries ; Wife's boundaries ; The mature man and the immature man ; Hospitality ; Life-long bonding -- Chapter 3: Learning to reach out: how to send and receive messages ; The rational fallacy ; The challenge of approximate meanings--The miracle of transcendence--living in a co-personal world--words and speech--Embodied words -- Chapter 4: Communicating for connection by Alethea Shiplett ; Why we communicate ; Observation vs. evaluation ; Feelings ; Needs ; Requests ; The language of emotions -- Chapter 5: Healing the burning rage ; A burning rage ; Get in touch with your rage ; Four principles to understand your rage ; Six clues for your wife ; Three steps to exorcise your demon rage -- Chapter 6: Getting the perfectionist monkey off your back ; Unhealthy self-talk ; Identify the problem ; Three steps to control your perfectionism ; Once a perfectionist, always a perfectionist -- Chapter 7: How to gain more intimacy ; What is intimacy? ; The language of the heart ; Where to find intimacy ; 18 barriers to intimacy exercise -- Chapter 8: Physical intimacy ; More than sexual intimacy ; How to give a physical (non-sexual) massage -- Chapter 9: Sexual Intimacy ; The pleasuring of each other ; How to give an erotic massage ; The fear of an unwanted pregnancy ; Mutual sexual pleasuring ; The art of making love ; When sex is not happening ; A note on religion and sex -- Chapter 10: How to handle conflict in an intimate relationship ; Four ways to deal with conflict ; Conflict resolution options ; A nine-step strategy for handling conflict ; Beware of the 10 irrational traps ; A note on raising questions -- Chapter 11: Sharing the nitty-gritty: How to take up a fair share of household chores, child care, etc ; What is "woman's work?" ; whose job is it anyway? ; Learn to make contracts ; Are you ready to share the nitty-gritty?" -- Appendix 1: The mature man exercise ; How mature are you?; Take this exercise in discovery -- Appendix 2: Is she the right one?: 33 Questions that may help you decide -- Fiftieth wedding anniversary poem--book list.

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