Includes bibliographical references and index.

Introduction -- The questions kids ask: What does adopted mean? -- Where is she from? -- Why did they go all the way over there to adopt a child? -- Who are her "real" parents? -- Why didn't her "real" parents want her? -- Was she abandoned? -- Why does she look different? -- Is she my real cousin? -- Where was she before she was adopted? -- Why didn't they just have one of their own? -- Why are there so many little girls, and not as many boys? -- Did she have a different name when she was born? -- How much did they pay for her? -- Will she be able to understand me and speak English? -- What if they want to give her back? -- What if she wants to leave them and go back to her birth parents? -- Will she remember where she is from or who her birth parents were? -- Won't she feel sad when she finds out she's adopted? -- Do's and don'ts for grown-ups -- Do: treat her like any other kid -- Support her when curious strangers ask questions -- Respect her privacy -- Treat prospective adoptive parents the same as expectant parents -- Acknowledge and celebrate the differences -- Please don't: Don't introduce her as adopted -- Don't say how lucky she is -- Don't assume adoption is a second choice -- Don't jump to conclusions about the birth mother -- Don't tell us we're sure to have our "own" now -- Want to know more about her birth country? -- China -- Russia -- The Republic of Guatemala -- The Republic of Korea -- Ukraine -- The Republic of Kazakhstan -- Socialist Republic of Vietnam -- The Republic of India -- The Republic of Colombia -- The Republic of haiti -- Appendix: resources for learning more about adoption.