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The state of affairs : rethinking infidelity / Esther Perel.

Perel, Esther, (author.).

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  • ISBN: 9780062322586
  • ISBN: 0062322583
  • Physical Description: xvi, 319 pages ; 24 cm
  • Edition: First edition.
  • Publisher: New York, NY : Harper, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers, [2017]

Contents / Notes

Bibliography, etc.: Includes bibliographical references (pages 303-310) and index.
Contents: A new conversation about marriage and infidelity -- Defining infidelity: Is chatting cheating? -- Affairs are not what they used to be -- Why betrayal hurts so much: Death by a thousand cuts -- Little shop of horrors: Do some affairs hurt more than others? -- Jealousy: The spark of Eros -- Self-blame or vengeance: The dagger cuts both ways -- To tell or not to tell?: The politics of secrecy and revelation -- Even happy people cheat: Mining the meanings of affairs -- An antidote to deadness: The lure of the forbidden -- Is sex ever just sex?: The emotional economics of adultery -- The mother of all betrayals?: Affairs among other marital misdemeanors -- The lover's dilemma: Conversations with the other woman -- Monogamy and its discontents: Rethinking marriage -- After the storm: The legacy of an affair.
Summary, etc.: An affair. It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. Why do people cheat, even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? For the past ten years, couples' therapist Esther Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of clients who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage -- with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships: what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.
Subject: Adultery.
Adultery > Psychological aspects.
Married people.
Marital conflict.
Man-woman relationships.
Interpersonal relations.
Intimacy (Psychology)
FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / Marriage & Long-Term Relationships.
PSYCHOLOGY / Human Sexuality.
PSYCHOLOGY / Psychotherapy / Counseling.

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